So….Potty Training

Yeah, it’s not going well.

We’ve had a total of three successes.  That’s it.

ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis, a type of autism therapy) specialists recommend taking an autistic child to the bathroom every 15 minutes.  Who has time for that when there are two other kids to take care of in the house?  My mom tells me of a success story that includes pushing water and other drinks and spending the day in the bathroom.  I just don’t see it happening.

But, we’ve had a minor success.  Roman will take his toilet icon off the bathroom door, where it is firmly attached with velcro, and bring it to me, meaning he wants to at least try.  He’ll stand at the toilet for a few seconds and then beg me to flush by pointing at the lever and then pointing at me saying, in his own way, that all he really wanted to do was watch swirling water work it’s way down the drain.

My mom asked me the other day if I was starting to think that Roman was on the placebo.  It’s been nearly four months and we’ll get a few words and then they’ll disappear into the depths of his brain, to maybe resurface weeks or months later, if at all.  The first few months were exciting, with new words and mild side effects.  Remember the drooling and chewing?  He’s since stopped both, thankfully.  The sleepless nights are still the bane of my existence.  So my answer to my mom, truthfully, was maybe.  He could be on a placebo.  His gains could completely be related to school, as they do an excellent job with him.

On a completely unrelated note, I’m completely giddy over something and I want to share it with the world, or at least the dozen or so readers of this blog.  In less than a week, I will be celebrating “Bye Bye Beardy”.  Eric has been growing a god-awful beard since November (or was it October? All I know is that it’s been way too long).  Roman likes the tickles that Eric gives him with it.  He may be the only one in the house to miss it.

The infamous beard. He's also been growing his hair out. Usually it's very close cut.

The beard is not just for aesthetics, or lack of.  Eric has been growing it as a fundraiser for cancer research.  He’s been taking donations for the sacrifice of his face.  On Tuesday, he’ll be shaving it off along with T.J. Duckett (a former Michigan State and NFL football player) and a handful of other guys.  I guess I’m proud of him, but nobody realizes my personal sacrifice of living with this beard for the past four or five months.  I need some recognition.

Roman may miss “Beardy” but I think he’ll adjust.


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4 Responses to So….Potty Training

  1. solodialogue says:

    I think we all have the potty training issue. Interesting, though, I was told something almost opposite of you by our ABA (which is called EIBT). They taught us that he should just go – no asking – no visual aids. If he had to go, he just went. Of course, that’s not how it started.

    They did the full day thing but for a week with rewards each time my son went. If he peed, he got to play on an old PS2 we have set aside specifically as a reward for the potty. He was stripped from the waist down and locked into the bathroom with them until he went. First, when he asked to get out, they told him he’d have to pee. Each time he asked they slowly said – you know what you have to do. Then, he got it quickly that peeing meant getting out and rewarded. Then they slowly increased the distance from the toilet. They also kept him standing all day so he could not squat and he’d feel it down his leg if he went without the toilet.
    Then, they put undies on and pants and gave him full reign of the house still rewarding each time. This method has worked for peeing. (not the other- still not trained there). But more than half the battle won! (Sorry – novel – but it worked so I wanted to share! (Also – they told us not to prompt him – no asking if he had to go)!

  2. That’s interesting that there are so many opinions on the potty training issue. I think we’ll wait for him to request it from now on. I don’t know how to do it without a visual aid since he’s mostly non-verbal.

  3. Big Daddy says:

    I kinda like the beard.

  4. Jean Nicol says:

    Just for fun, google Dr Phil on Potty Training. I know of several people who had success.

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